Mourning the Loss of a Pet

Anyone who has had a beloved pet knows how painful it is to say goodbye. The decision itself is challenging and should involve your veterinary team, who can guide you on when and how to proceed. Their support helps you understand the reasons behind the decision, reducing feelings of guilt. Knowing the steps involved can also help you prepare emotionally and practically.

The day of euthanasia is emotionally challenging, and it's important for all family members to be prepared. Everyone experiences this day differently, so don't hesitate to share your requests with your veterinarian, who will do their best to accommodate them. Cremation is the most common option for handling remains, often arranged through veterinary clinics. You can choose individual cremation with ashes returned in an urn, along with keepsakes like paw prints or jewelry. Some municipalities also permit pet burials in private cemeteries. Check with your clinic for details.

Grieving the loss of a pet is a process with several stages, much like grieving a human. It’s completely NORMAL to feel pain and sorrow after such a loss. France Carlos, therapist and author of Deuil animalier (2008, Editions Broquet), identifies four main stages of grief that pet owners may experience.

1. Denial. Naturally, human beings protect themselves from grief by denying the situation.
2. Emotion. The range of emotions is infinite. But most often, it involves grief and anger.
3. Acceptance.
4. Reinvestment in other relationships. The last thing you want to do is skip the first 3 steps and adopt another animal prematurely, as you'll be tempted to find your previous companion through this one, which will ultimately hinder the establishment of a healthy relationship with the new one.

In summary, listen to your emotions and confide in people who understand you, often fellow pet owners, to avoid fear of judgment. Veterinary clinic staff can also offer support during difficult times. Acknowledge and respect your grief, accepting each stage as it comes. While no one is ever fully prepared for such a loss, facing each phase with support can make the journey easier.

Written by: Dr. Catherine Côté